Posted by: Kathy White | October 13, 2010

Love And Other Intangibles

If you had a chance to look up your wife/husband/partner’s profile page in some matching website, would you date ’em? Meaning, they don’t have one NOW I hope, but if they did have one.

My wife and I have often said that, today, if we saw each other’s pages, we’d never pick one another.

And, since we have to keep getting married every few years, we do have to reconsider our ability to stay together. We keep doing it — 19 years now. But, seriously, if you had to keep assessing if you want to stay together every few years, in a very real way, would you? Could you?

We fight. We keep going over the same ground. We have to make compromises and keep going. If the federal gov’t says yes to our right to marriage, will we do it all again? Absolutely. (I hope, but I won’t go in to that.) We’ll have a third wedding date. How many of you can say that?

My match page would say sports, beer drinking, beach, reading, dogs, and travel.

Hers says gardening, beach, reading, dogs and travel. And yet… sports would stop her in her tracks because I watch a lot of them. Gardening, not my thing. Luckily, we travel well together.

So, when you look at your loved one, would you — better yet could you — marry them again? If you had the opportunity to? Or would you just say no?

To my wife, thanks… and I’d do it all over again..and again…and again… and again… cause I can.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 12, 2010

Disabled And Learning From It

Since breaking my ankle in early July, I’ve had to live the life of a disabled person to a certain extent. Now, I’m not comparing what I’m going through to anything most permanent disabled people face and I’m certainly not saying I have suffered anything compared to them. But I have had my eyes opened.

For one, finding a handicap parking spot is crazy. There are not nearly enough of them. I cannot imagine being a disabled person with a wheelchair driving around in circles trying to find a spot. The frustration is maddening. And forgot them being located where they actually would make sense near a front door. And forget getting help once inside a store. We fail our less mobile Americans miserably.

There is also the expectations that you need to “prove” that you are disabled. Unless your disability can be plainly seen, folks tend to want to ask. Or, better yet, give you a skeptical eye as if you don’t LOOK handicapped. Guess what, not everything is available to see by the naked eye. Sure, there are people who have no business with a service dog or a handicap placard, but most do and you’d be wise to leave them be. Better off to be nice to everybody than skeptical of everybody.

Somebody should teach that to some of the people working in our services industry. Quite frankly, some of you are just tacky and horrible. Learn some manners.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 4, 2010

Recent Suicides of Gay Teens Appalling

Seth Walsh, Tyler Clementi, Billy Lucas, Asher Brown — These names meant nothing to you or me and now they are the symbols of what is wrong with so much about our country right now. They were all gay men or teens. And they were harassed to the point of feeling like their lives were not worth living anymore.

Some of these boys were just 13. They made a permanent decision to a temporary feeling — one they can’t take back and their families must now live with.

And, because of what? Because they were gay? First off, harassment is wrong no matter who is facing it and over what. Bullying has become such a norm in some schools and it seems the schools are doing little to stop it. It all becomes “boys will be boys” and they will figure it out. Guess what? Nobody is figuring out anything except those who have been harassed — and they’re figuring out there is no way out and death seems like the only viable option.

In each of these situations, these young men felt that being gay was humiliating. It shouldn’t be. Unless you’re going to say that straight people choose to be straight, don’t say gay people choose to be so. I know. It is no easy road and certainly one you don’t choose — but you are who you are.

And now, each of these families will never see all the potential of these young men. And, I’m guessing, those who bang the drum about how wrong homosexuality is will never see the damage they do.

And to those who harass, who bully, who try to make others feel small — go take a look in the mirror. You aren’t so great. You’re only doing it because you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.

My heart, my prayers, my sympathy go out to all of these families. They, and the young men who are no longer here, make my heart break in little pieces. They should make your heart break, too.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 1, 2010

And, Here We Are — Dog Dies Unnecessarily

Oakland is a wasteland anymore. I was born there. I live right next to it. And because police officers fight for their lives every day while drug runners, gangs, and careless people shoot up the streets, they can be trigger-happy. I get it. Nobody wants to die.

I am quite sure that there will be many letters to the editor about the shooting of an 11-year-old arthritic golden lab dog in a family’s yard and they will express outrage. I feel that, too. And then…

We will see the letters of people outraged that we are more outraged by a dog being shot instead of the many humans who die.

Guess what. That dog was in her yard and doing her job. She didn’t ask for this and certainly should not have been shot in the head. She was not on BART at 2 am. She was not outside a party where gang members are. She was not trying to create chaos, was not packing a weapon, was not doing anything, really, but defending her home. And, barely, at that. Arthritis was her worst enemy until she met Oakland PD.

Yes, I know. People who did not deserve to die, have died, at the hands of police. It happens all too often. But it’s way too often involves them knowing someone they should not or being around someone they should not.

Gloria was in her yard and shot in the head. That’s fucked up. I do value human life more than anything, but this just has WRONG written all over it. Noon? Nice neighborhood? Lab dog? Really, the first thing to do is shoot the dog?

Screw that. We need to pay attention when humans and animals die for no reason at all. Let’s get real about what police protection should mean.

Posted by: Kathy White | September 30, 2010

Sarah Palin Love and Truth

  1. Todd and Sarah Palin met at a high school basketball game. When she first saw him, she whispered to herself “Thank you, God. — Really? That was her first thought? Have you seen him? Did she see a porn video right before that?
  2. In her book Going Rogue, Palin insists that she was manipulated into doing the famous Katie Couric interviews by Nicole Wallace, a communications aide for the campaign, and that Couric was just interested in catching Palin in a “gotcha” moment. — If there had been just ONE gotcha moment, that might be true. Watch it. There are about a thousand of them. None of those make sense from her.
  3. Palin was known as “Sarah Barracuda” on her high school basketball team because of her ferociousness on the court. She was also the co-caption of the 1982 State Championship basketball team and a member of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. — I was also in Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Guess what, they let anybody in. And Barracuda? Really? Seen the pictures? She is no more barracuda than I am straight.
  4. Palin’s parents, Chuck and Sally Heath, were a high school science teacher and school secretary, respectively. Her father also worked as a hunting and fishing guide and a bartender as well as for the Alaskan Railroad to make ends meet — And we can also deduce they had no time for their weird daughter, except when dropping her from a helicopter to shoot things.
  5. While attending the University of Hawaii-Hilo, Sarah tried marijuana and didn’t like it. “I can’t claim a Bill Clinton and say I never inhaled.”– Too bad. That just means you’re weird.
  6. When Sarah and Todd eloped on August 20th, 1988, they forgot to bring witnesses, so they went next door to a nursing home and brought back two people, one in a wheelchair and one using a walker. Eight months later on April 20, 1989, their first son, Track, was born — Draw your own conclusion. No, really. Figure it out.
  7. Track was named after Palin’s favorite spring activity, running track. Sarah joked that if he had born during basketball season, she would have named him “Hoops.”— Imagine if he had been born during curling season. “Hey, Curly, get that will ya?” Oh, and insert your own 3 stooges joke here.
  8. Palin and five of her friends formed an exercise group called the “Elite Six.” During the 1990s, they would perform aerobics as a group at the Alaska State Fair in exchange for free parking and food. — And probably other things. I mean, does Elite Six not sound like something that provides “other” services?
  9. When Sarah was helping with Todd’s commercial fishing business in 1993, she failed to register as a gillnet permit holder and pleaded “no contest.” The violation was inadvertently registered as a felony. — Inadvertently? She can’t be president. It’s a felony. It’s a damn fish.
  10. During the 2008 presidential campaign, Palin was the second female vice presidential candidate (after Geraldine Ferraro in 1984) and the first Alaskan on a national ticket. She was also the first female vice presidential nominee of the Republican Party. — And the first to actually blow up a Republican party nomination while serving her own purposes. Nice. John McCain loves her right about now.
  11. Palin attended five colleges in six years before graduating from the University of Idaho-Moscow in 1987 with a Bachelors degree in communications-journalism. She began her college education at Hawaii Pacific University and subsequently transferred to North Idaho College, the University of Idaho, and Matanuska-Susitna College — Anybody else follow that? Did she do anything?
  12. Palin won the Miss Wasilla pageant and finished third in the Miss Alaska pageant in 1984
  13. Palin won the Miss Wasilla pageant in 1984 and placed second in the Miss Alaska pageant, where she won the “Miss Congeniality” award and a college scholarship. From what I read, she is NO Ms. Congeniality. She’s a bitch unless the spotlight is on her. Soooo let’s go over this again…
  14. During her first term as mayor, Palin would keep a jar with all the names of the citizens of Wasilla on papers. Each week, she would pick a name and call the person and ask, “How is the city doing?. — Bad part, they said “Who are you?
  15. Palin was Alaska’s first female governor and the youngest (age 42) governor in Alaskan history. — And the best part? She probably did that all by herself.
  16. In 2007, polls indicated a 93% and 89% approval rating for Palin as governor. In 2009, her approval rating was at 54%. — In 2010 that went to 30% and they were convinced she was a lesbian. Good luck!
  17. In 2007, Palin supported a policy that would allow wolves to be hunted from the air and that a bounty of $150 per wolf would be paid. The bounty was later declared illegal. — NO SHIT.
  18. Publisher HarperCollins said that Going Rogue sold 300,000 copies its first day, making it one of the best openings ever for a nonfiction book. In 2004, Bill Clinton’s book, My Life, debuted at 400,000 copies. The year before, Hillary Clinton’s Living History started at 200,000. Going Rogue is poised to make Palin millions. — And make her a laughing —- wait for it — STALK. Really? Read it? Damn it…
  19. While mayor in 1996, Palin asked Wasilla librarian Mary Ellen Emmons if she would approve of censoring books if she were asked to do so. A few weeks after Emmons replied with “Definitely not,” she received a termination letter from Palin. — She also said that she must burn anything from James Baldwin, Armistead Maulpin, Oscar Wilde, and, well, anything gay.
  20. In an 2008 interview with the conservative newspaper Newsmax, Palin disputes the notion that humans are completely responsible for the global warming crisis. — And she can see Alaska from her front porch. Oh, wait, Russia. Oh, wait, polar bear who’d like more ice. Whatever.
  21. While she was mayor, the town of Wasilla charged rape victims and/or their insurance companies for rape kits. Former State Rep. Eric Croft reports that the only ongoing resistance to a bill that provided free rape kits was from Wasilla while Palin was mayor from 1996-2002. — Hey, you get raped? Look how you are dressed. Asking for it. And you should pay… well, you should pay just the same. Duh.
  22. While she was pregnant with daughter Willow, Palin dressed as a pregnant Jane Fonda for Halloween –Do I need this joke?
  23. Palin is a member of Feminists For Life (FFL) an anti-abortion, pro-contraception organization. — Wait, pro contraception? Bristol didn’t get that memo?
  24. During the governor’s race, Palin was the only candidate who said that creationism should be discussed in school alongside evolution.– Nope. Scientists are right, just deal with it.
  25. Palin is a lifelong member of the National Rifle Association (NRA). — She shouldn’t have gun, ever.
  26. Palin supports capital punishment. — Only if we’re killing, uhm, wait… family?

I’m sure Sarah is a fine person. I just don’t want her as my president, or a senate person, or, well, anything that might have control over my life. Stay in Alaska. They seem to like you there — or not.

Posted by: Kathy White | September 28, 2010

“Sister Wives” — Uh, What?

So, it’s illegal to practice polygamy in this country but if you want to do it on national television as a reality show, that’s just fine.

I swear, the more I look around, the more confused I am. DADT can’t get repealed but these yahoos can go on TV and get paid for breaking the law.

The GOP can write up some witty Pledge to America that holds more hypocrisy, racism and homophobia than ANY document should contain and that’s suppose to be good for our country. Swallow that bitter little pill, America.

And Sarah Palin can be a complete ass when she’s not in the spotlight, and that’s okay (re: Vanity Fair article). As long as she keeps telling the Tea Partiers what they want to hear — love God, hate gays, hate Democrats, hate taxes, love me.

I think I should stop reading media for awhile. The more I read, the angrier I get. What a joke this has become. Sadly.

Posted by: Kathy White | September 22, 2010

A Rally I Can Get Behind

I love Jon Stewart. In this crazy, mixed-up world — he’s the only one who makes sense. And Colbert, God love him, mocks the very thing we know is so wrong in media today — blowhards.

That they are holding competing rallies in D.C. on October 30, one to promote fear and one to promote sanity, is pure genius. On the week before the elections, you can go and rally with the guys who actually make the most sense of anybody out there that has a platform to talk.

Here’s the gist of Stewart’s rally: “We’re looking for the people who think shouting is annoying, counterproductive, and terrible for your throat; who feel that the loudest voices shouldn’t be the only ones that get heard; and who believe that the only time it’s appropriate to draw a Hitler mustache on someone is when that person is actually Hitler. Or Charlie Chaplin in certain roles.

Are you one of those people? Excellent. Then we’d like you to join us in Washington, DC on October 30 — a date of no significance whatsoever — at the Daily Show’s “Rally to Restore Sanity.” Ours is a rally for the people who’ve been too busy to go to rallies, who actually have lives and families and jobs (or are looking for jobs) — not so much the Silent Majority as the Busy Majority. If we had to sum up the political view of our participants in a single sentence… we couldn’t. That’s sort of the point.

Think of our event as Woodstock, but with the nudity and drugs replaced by respectful disagreement.”

I love it — the busy majority. We’re the ones who know that all this crap is just that — a bunch of crap. There is no 9/11 conspiracy, there is no Muslim in our White House and he was not born in Kenya, the white man is not being marginalized and immigrants do not need to be shot on sight. But damn, we just don’t have time to get up on soapboxes and scream about it. We’re busy.

And here’s Colbert’s rally: “America, the Greatest Country God ever gave Man, was built on three bedrock principles: Freedom. Liberty. And Fear — that someone might take our Freedom and Liberty. But now, there are dark, optimistic forces trying to take away our Fear — forces with salt and pepper hair and way more Emmys than they need. They want to replace our Fear with reason. But never forget — “Reason” is just one letter away from “Treason.” Coincidence? Reasonable people would say it is, but America can’t afford to take that chance.”

Yup. Glenn Beck can go to this rally because he won’t even get the joke. He’ll take it seriously and think we SHOULD be rallying to keep up our fear. The fearmongers are winning because they’re doing all of the talking and doing it from loud big platforms. What is it we’re suppose to be afraid of? Everything. But here’s a quick list in case you haven’t been paying attention:

  • Terrorists — yes, we do need to be afraid but not every Muslim is a terrorist and not every mosque is a feeding ground for al queda.
  • Immigrants — Yup. They’re taking our jobs. Wait, what?
  • Gays in the military — This one just still astounds me. DADT is unconstitutional, it’s reckless, and it hurts our military. Nuff said.
  • Gays getting married — Because Britney Spears being married for just 24 hours and Rush Limbaugh being married 4 times is okay. Gays would screw up marriage for the straight people.
  • Activist judges — Any judge who abides by the law but goes against what the blowhards think is right is an activist. Got that?
  • President Obama — Black, Muslim, born in Kenya and a complete socialist. Except the first one, not a damn one of those things is true and they’ve been proven false again and again. But there are some people there’s just no convincing — and they scare the hell out of me.

As you can see, we have plenty to fear and lots to be riled up about — if only we had the time. Now we need to make the time and go rally with the good guys. Road trip!

Posted by: Kathy White | September 21, 2010

Republican Senators Suck

There are so many quality people wanting to serve our military who can’t because of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” We’ve thrown out very specialized, talented people from our military thanks to DADT. Now, Republican senators are stepping up to be sure those people still aren’t welcome in today’s military. How incredibly sad. I say we send those senators over to serve in place of those who they are excluding — and we won’t ask them if they want to or tell them what to do when they get there.

Posted by: Kathy White | September 20, 2010

Whatever … It’s only Money

  1. A dollar from 1950 is now worth only $0.12 — And a dollar from 2009 is worth only 50 cents, but I’m just guessing.
  2. The term “inflation” is from the Latin term inflare, meaning to “blow up or inflate,” and it was first used in a monetary sense to describe “an increase in the amount of money” in 1838. Today, economists argue over the definition of inflation but generally agree that it means a continued rise in prices while the value of money declines. — So why don’t they just call that “You’re Screwed.”
  3. The inflation rate is the percentage increase in the price of goods per year. For example, if the inflation rate is 2%, then a $1 candy will cost $1.02 in a year — and after that, it’ll only get worse.
  4. Twenty-eight hyperinflations have occurred in the 20th century, with twenty happening after 1980. — When was that Reagan guy elected? Oh, right. 1980. Happy Reaganomics everyone!
  5. The term “gold” is the from the Proto-Indo-European base *ghel / *ghol meaning “yellow,” “green,” or possibly “bright.” — How about it means rich? That work?
  6. Gold is so rare that the world pours more steel in an hour than it has poured gold since the beginning of recorded history. — Is that Christian recorded history or the regular history everybody else follows along with that includes big bangs and dinosaurs.
  7. Gold has been discovered on every continent on earth. — So has dirt but it ain’t worth anything. Hmmm.
  8. Gold melts at 1064.43° Centigrade. It can conduct both heat and electricity and it never rusts. — It also can cut through a soda can and right after that cut through a tomato. Oh, wait… that’s the ginsu knife. Never mind.
  9. Due to its high value, most gold discovered throughout history is still in circulation. However, it is thought that 80% of the world’s gold is still in the ground — that explains all those people trying to find gold now that the dam has been taken down. Good luck with that.
  10. Seventy-five percent of all gold in circulation has been extracted since 1910. — Wait, maybe they’re on to something. Where’s my overalls?
Posted by: Kathy White | September 17, 2010

Native Americans and Immigration

I did not know that Eric Clapton was a racist. I learned that today from my buddy’s Facebook post — and wikipedia. It appears that Mr. Clapton would prefer the U.K. to remain staunchly white and that those of color should reside elsewhere. He said it in the 70s and it appears that even today he still feels this way. It got me thinking about the issue of immigration and just who gets to say what about it.

We have people in favor of building a wall — to separate us from Mexico. Notice we do not need one to separate us from Canada. Why is that? Is it because Canadians don’t want to come to our country to pick our vegetables any more than we want to pick our vegetables? Or are they just nice and white — mostly? Whatever the reason, we seem to have a large group of folks who want the good ol’ USA to build a big-ass wall to keep out our Mexican neighbors. That’ll be attractive — and oh, so, useful.

It does not seem to occur to all these anti-immigration folks that they are the direct descendants of, you guessed it, immigrants and illegal ones at that — or at least they weren’t exactly invited to come here. Pretty sure it never occurred to the American natives to build a wall — but you damn well know in hindsight they wished they had — they wouldn’t be living in the desert on our nice reservations.

So, in this land of immigrants we don’t want immigrants. We want to deport them. We want to build a wall to keep them out. We do not want them here illegally — although if you got the truth out of most of the people doing a lot of the talking, they don’t want them here at all — not even legally. They would just mess with our gene pool or whatever.

If you did manage to get here, get work, pay taxes, raise a family and live the American dream without benefit of a green card — we’d like you to leave immediately. Oh, and we won’t let you come back. And, if we have our way here soon, even if your kids were born here, we aren’t going to let them be citizens. They’re tainted with illegal-ness.

Here’s Glenn Beck (The fusion of entertainment and enlightment? Really? Unbelievable) on the subject: “First of all, let’s talk about the rights.  It is our sovereign right to protect our borders.  Every country does it.  It hasn’t been done here in America.  74% of Americans want stronger border control.  3/4 of this nation, are 3/4 of this nation racist Nazis?  Because that’s quite a statement.” — If you want to read his entire rant, it’s quite a piece. But 3/4 of our nation only wants one border protected it seems. Do we need to build a wall out at sea to keep out the Europeans? I should think so. That’s a border. People come here that way all the time.

If we’re going to throw out everybody who doesn’t belong here then we need to give this country back to the Native Americans and go back to Europe or Africa or wherever. If we’re going to go to extremes then by gosh let’s go all the way. We came from folks who came here “illegally” and took land that wasn’t there’s to take and killed people who lived here in peace and then rounded them up and put them on desert land that isn’t good for anything and told them to be happy.


Sure, I’m exaggerating but with all the crazy talk out there about immigration, illegals, walls and shooting people who dare to try to come here — maybe it’s time to step back and remember exactly who it is we are as nation: immigrants.

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