Posted by: Kathy White | February 23, 2012

What Women Want

A friend of mine was talking about women and how hard he thinks it is to relate sometimes. He asked me if I had the same issues. It occurred to me – because I am indeed a woman – that I might have some insight in to this.

So, here’s my take. What women want:

  • Love. All of it. Love of friends, of family and, of course, of the one true love. Love is so paramount to a woman … she gives it out without thinking but wants it back without asking.
  • Respect. And here goes the list:
    • Respect of smarts: Because, well, she is. It may not be the smarts of Einstein but every woman knows a lot about something.
    • Respect of emotions: Yes, she will cry at the end of sad movies and some AT&T commercials. No mocking. Women are more emotional because, well, my theory – women give birth. It’s a thing.
    • Respect of faith: Because she has it. In you. In herself. Maybe in a higher being but not the point. Faith is a universal feeling of “yes” … and a woman has that kind of faith, sometimes to a flaw.
    • Respect of instincts: If she says you are going the wrong way, trust me, you are. Always trust her instincts.
    • Respect of turf: She has hers, and no, it is not clearly marked. Don’t go tromping around where you don’t belong. You have your turf, too, but she knows it and tries not to trounce on it. Do the same.

    Honesty. Yeah, seems obvious. But if you aren’t honest with yourself, then you can’t be honest at all. So, be honest about who you are and be your true self around her. She will give you all that you want and more.

Posted by: Kathy White | February 3, 2011

I’m Not Dead Yet

Well, I’ve been busy. No excuse, I know. But here’s what I think about what’s going on in the world in brief, bulleted items and in no particular order:

Egypt Unrest

Get your anger on..

  • Egypt is in trouble, but I think it’ll come out okay on the other end. It’s going to take time, but when the people stand up as one, a lot can be accomplished. Wish we’d learn that here.
  • I think the Steelers will win but I really hope that the Packers do. Should be a helluva game, either way. Too bad I’ll be on a plane.
  • I hate what humans are capable of doing to other humans, particularly children. It never ceases to amaze me that somebody can do these things. What kind of mind does that take?
  • It’s friggin’ 67 out here and most of the rest of the country is buried in snow. This is why I live here. Don’t see what the rest of you see living in all that crap out there… tornadoes? Hurricanes? Snow? Forget it. Now, where are my board shorts?
  • I’m not sure who I like in the Oscar race, but my money is on The King’s Speech… history, good acting, a weakness to overcome — and we’re talking British royalty, which we love here. Done. What’s a Facebook?
  • I think Charlie Sheen is hilarious on TV. I do not find his life to be as funny.
  • I’m happy for William and Kate. I think they’ll do just fine. I feel sorry for Charles. I don’t think he’ll ever get to be the king. Poor bastard.
  • I still hate reality TV. What was up with that whole Bachelor thing and the sad, sad Idol story? Thank you
  • The rhetoric on both sides has gotten ridiculous. That’s why I like this.
  • Has Sarah Palin gone away yet? No? Damn it.

Well, that’s all there’s time for right now. But I’m sure I’ll get busy with this again .. lord knows I need somewhere to vent.

Have a good one!

Posted by: Kathy White | November 10, 2010

Up To My Ears

I’m up to my ears in work, but that’s a good thing. My ankle is recovering nicely but the physical therapy makes it hurt like hell.

But enough about me. Wait, this is my blog. So, you’ll just have to soldier on.

I’m completely dismayed by the following things:

Why we couldn’t get DADT repealed before the Republicans kill it.
Why everybody calls Pelosi and Obama failures.
Why is the shrinking middle class not causing more of a concern for everybody!
Why do a dog’s paws smell like Fritos. Go ahead, sniff one.
Why am I still so damn excited about what the Giants accomplished.

But, let’s not ponder on too many things. After all, the Raiders are on a 3-game win streak so obviously the world is titled in a whole new direction.

Happy Hump Day!

Posted by: Kathy White | November 2, 2010

Why Voting Matters

I almost always listen to people who like to rant about this, that and some other thing. But when it comes to complaining about government or policy, I always ask the same question: Did ya vote in the last election?

Not always, but more than I care to count, I get “no.” I then proceed to explain why I will now no longer listen to their rant. I will also not vote for people who can’t be bothered to vote (hello, Meg and Fiorna). A lot folks in the world don’t get any say. They live with whatever it is those in power decide. Well, we don’t. We have the power to vote people in and out of office. We have the power to vote for or against policy. We have the power to move the political conversation and make our elected leaders listen. And if all you do is bitch, I have no time for you.

It takes all of about 10 minutes to vote. Maybe it takes an hour to do the research to decide how you want to vote on the more confusing issues. It’s not a whole lot of time out of your day and life to contribute. Always the same excuse: “My vote doesn’t count. What does it matter? It’s all just bullshit anyway.” Wanna know why that may turn out to be true? Because you didn’t participate. If you keep throwing away your right to participate, someday it won’t matter — that’s true.

It won’t be an opportunity that you have at all.

Vote. Just friggin’ vote.


Posted by: Kathy White | October 20, 2010

Mary Jane, Pot, Weed, Ganja …

Since we in the fine state of California are voting on whether to just legalize pot or not .. I thought I’d visit the fun world of marijuana. Grab your bong and come along …

  1. Marijuana is created from the dried, shredded flowers and leaves of the hemp plant Cannabis sativa. — And god bless the individual who figured out how fun it was to smoke it.
  2. Marijuana is the most common illegal drug used in the United States. Approximately 100 million Americans have tried marijuana at least once, and more than 25 million have smoked it in the last year. — Really? OK. But how many of them have inhaled?
  3. According to one national survey on drug use, each day approximately 6,000 Americans try marijuana for the first time. — I just love this stat. There are 6,000 happy people today. Sweet.
  4. Worldwide, it is estimated that about 162 million adults use marijuana at least once per year, and 22.5 million use the drug daily. — That explains a lot — well, it explains a lot about the guys at Amoeba records, some of the folks at Starbucks, and most of the people on Haight St.
  5. smoking joint
    After alcohol, marijuana is the most popular drug worldwide
  6. After alcohol, marijuana is the most popular recreational or mood-altering drug used worldwide. — Trust me, if it becomes legal, alcohol doesn’t stand a chance.
  7. Just under 40% of high school students in the U.S. report using marijuana at least once in their life, and 20% report using it regularly. — How else do you survive high school?
  8. According to one report, it would take 800 joints to kill a person—but the cause of death would be carbon monoxide poisoning. — Who the hell finds this kind of stat? And who had to smoke 800 joints to figure it out? At 799, he was still ok. And then….
  9. There are over 200 slang terms for marijuana in the popular vernacular. Some of the more common nicknames include pot, grass, weed, hash, and ganja — What, no Mary Jane?
  10. The international and scientific name for marijuana is cannabis. However, the substance is most commonly called marijuana within the United States — it’s commonly also called “smoke ’em if you got ’em.”
  11. The name marijuana comes from a Mexican slang term for cannabis and is believed to have derived from the Spanish pronunciation of the names Mary and Jane. (The two names were also common Mexican military slang for a prostitute or brothel.) Marijuana came into popularity as a name for cannabis in the U.S. during the late 1800s — There’s Mary Jane!!
  12. The cannabis plant can grow in nearly any environment and averages one to two inches of growth per day and up to 18 feet total in ideal conditions — yeah, but if it hits 18 feet, the drug enforcement planes can spot ’em… better to do the heat lamps in the attic.
  13. The primary active ingredient in marijuana is THC (delta 9 tetrhydrocannabinol). It is this chemical that produces marijuana’s mind-altering effects — far out.
  14. The psychoactive side effects of THC in small doses include loss of inhibition, elation, and a distorted sense of time. The drug can also cause increased visual sensitivity and heightened imagination — and they say this is a bad thing? Eating 5 bags of Doritos is a bad thing.. and that’s a side effect.
  15. Depending upon the weather conditions, soil type, and time of harvest for a cannabis plant, as well as the specific mixture of dried leaves and flowers in the marijuana product, a sample of marijuana can contain anywhere from 3% to 20% THC. — Quick, call your drug dealer and see what he says his is.
  16. Cannabis seeds were used as a food source in China as early as 6000 B.C — Explains a lot.
  17. shen  nung
    Marijuana was first used as a medicinal drug in 2737 B.C. by Chinese emperor Shen Nung
  18. The first recorded use of marijuana as a medicinal drug occurred in 2737 B.C. by Chinese emperor Shen Nung. The emperor documented the drug’s effectiveness in treating the pains of rheumatism and gout — and now it can solve world hunger.
  19. The first law in the American colonies regarding marijuana was a 1619 law that actually required farmers to grow the hemp plant. Once harvested, hemp was useful for clothing, sails, and rope — but they never really got around to making any of that stuff.
  20. During the temperance movement of the 1890s, marijuana was commonly recommended as a substitute for alcohol. The reason for this was that use of marijuana did not lead to domestic violence while alcohol abuse did. — Yeah, stoners just can’t get all that worked up about anything. Takes to much energy. Pass the Doritos.
  21. Marijuana was first severely restricted as a recreational and medicinal drug in the U.S. by the Marihuana Tax Act of 1937. The law did not prohibit marijuana use but imposed such a heavy tax that legal sale and use became nearly impossible. — Bastards!
  22. In October of 1937, Samuel Caldwell was the first U.S. citizen arrested under the Marihuana Tax Act for selling marijuana without paying the newly mandated tax. He was fined $1,000 and sentenced to four years of hard labor in Leavenworth. — Wow. What did they do to murderers?
  23. Prior to its ban, hemp was a staple cash crop of the family farm in early America. The first two drafts of the United States Declaration of Independence were written on paper made from hemp. — Luckily, nobody thought to roll it up and smoke it before it made its way in to history.
  24. The Controlled Substances Act of 1970 made it illegal to possess, use, buy, sell, or cultivate marijuana in the United States. The law classifies marijuana as a Schedule 1 drug, meaning it has a high potential for abuse and no acceptable medical use. — Well, we know THAT isn’t true.
  25. Marijuana production and trafficking make up the world’s largest drug market and the substance can be grown in almost every country. The United Nations Office on Drug and Crimes (UNODC) has data on 172 countries and territories known to grow marijuana. — Planning your next vacation? Check out these great locales.
  26. Paraguay is believed to be the world’s largest producer of marijuana — OK. Decision made.
  27. According to the UNODC, there are several countries worldwide where greater than 8% of the population are said to use marijuana. Among those countries are the United States, Canada, England, Spain, France, South Africa, and New Zealand — I’ve been to all of these countries except England. Coincidence? Yes.
  28. In 2007, nearly 900,000 arrests for marijuana violations were made in the United States. Approximately 90% of offenders charged with marijuana-related crimes were arrested for possession only. — What a friggin’ waste of money and time and jail space.
  29. grocery store
    Marijuana was easily obtained at the local grocery store or pharmacy until the early 1940s
  30. From 1850 to 1942, marijuana was listed in the United States Pharmacopoeia as a useful medicine for nausea, rheumatism, and labor pains and was easily obtained at the local general store or pharmacy. — labor pains? Love it. Welcome to the world, baby.
  31. Current supporters of medical marijuana believe the drug has significant medical value for patients who suffer from AIDS, glaucoma, cancer, multiple sclerosis, epilepsy, and chronic pain. Several studies have been published to support and document this belief — and those who smoke it just feel better.
  32. In 2003, Canada became the first country in the world to offer medical marijuana to pain-suffering patients — Blame Canada!
  33. In 1996, California became the first U.S. state to legally allow medical marijuana for patients with a valid doctor’s recommendation. — Yup, always ahead of the curve out here.
  34. Well, I hope that helps you make up your mind on voting day. Smoke a bowl and think it over. Cheers!

Posted by: Kathy White | October 13, 2010

Love And Other Intangibles

If you had a chance to look up your wife/husband/partner’s profile page in some matching website, would you date ’em? Meaning, they don’t have one NOW I hope, but if they did have one.

My wife and I have often said that, today, if we saw each other’s pages, we’d never pick one another.

And, since we have to keep getting married every few years, we do have to reconsider our ability to stay together. We keep doing it — 19 years now. But, seriously, if you had to keep assessing if you want to stay together every few years, in a very real way, would you? Could you?

We fight. We keep going over the same ground. We have to make compromises and keep going. If the federal gov’t says yes to our right to marriage, will we do it all again? Absolutely. (I hope, but I won’t go in to that.) We’ll have a third wedding date. How many of you can say that?

My match page would say sports, beer drinking, beach, reading, dogs, and travel.

Hers says gardening, beach, reading, dogs and travel. And yet… sports would stop her in her tracks because I watch a lot of them. Gardening, not my thing. Luckily, we travel well together.

So, when you look at your loved one, would you — better yet could you — marry them again? If you had the opportunity to? Or would you just say no?

To my wife, thanks… and I’d do it all over again..and again…and again… and again… cause I can.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 12, 2010

Disabled And Learning From It

Since breaking my ankle in early July, I’ve had to live the life of a disabled person to a certain extent. Now, I’m not comparing what I’m going through to anything most permanent disabled people face and I’m certainly not saying I have suffered anything compared to them. But I have had my eyes opened.

For one, finding a handicap parking spot is crazy. There are not nearly enough of them. I cannot imagine being a disabled person with a wheelchair driving around in circles trying to find a spot. The frustration is maddening. And forgot them being located where they actually would make sense near a front door. And forget getting help once inside a store. We fail our less mobile Americans miserably.

There is also the expectations that you need to “prove” that you are disabled. Unless your disability can be plainly seen, folks tend to want to ask. Or, better yet, give you a skeptical eye as if you don’t LOOK handicapped. Guess what, not everything is available to see by the naked eye. Sure, there are people who have no business with a service dog or a handicap placard, but most do and you’d be wise to leave them be. Better off to be nice to everybody than skeptical of everybody.

Somebody should teach that to some of the people working in our services industry. Quite frankly, some of you are just tacky and horrible. Learn some manners.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 4, 2010

Recent Suicides of Gay Teens Appalling

Seth Walsh, Tyler Clementi, Billy Lucas, Asher Brown — These names meant nothing to you or me and now they are the symbols of what is wrong with so much about our country right now. They were all gay men or teens. And they were harassed to the point of feeling like their lives were not worth living anymore.

Some of these boys were just 13. They made a permanent decision to a temporary feeling — one they can’t take back and their families must now live with.

And, because of what? Because they were gay? First off, harassment is wrong no matter who is facing it and over what. Bullying has become such a norm in some schools and it seems the schools are doing little to stop it. It all becomes “boys will be boys” and they will figure it out. Guess what? Nobody is figuring out anything except those who have been harassed — and they’re figuring out there is no way out and death seems like the only viable option.

In each of these situations, these young men felt that being gay was humiliating. It shouldn’t be. Unless you’re going to say that straight people choose to be straight, don’t say gay people choose to be so. I know. It is no easy road and certainly one you don’t choose — but you are who you are.

And now, each of these families will never see all the potential of these young men. And, I’m guessing, those who bang the drum about how wrong homosexuality is will never see the damage they do.

And to those who harass, who bully, who try to make others feel small — go take a look in the mirror. You aren’t so great. You’re only doing it because you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.

My heart, my prayers, my sympathy go out to all of these families. They, and the young men who are no longer here, make my heart break in little pieces. They should make your heart break, too.

Posted by: Kathy White | October 1, 2010

And, Here We Are — Dog Dies Unnecessarily

Oakland is a wasteland anymore. I was born there. I live right next to it. And because police officers fight for their lives every day while drug runners, gangs, and careless people shoot up the streets, they can be trigger-happy. I get it. Nobody wants to die.

I am quite sure that there will be many letters to the editor about the shooting of an 11-year-old arthritic golden lab dog in a family’s yard and they will express outrage. I feel that, too. And then…

We will see the letters of people outraged that we are more outraged by a dog being shot instead of the many humans who die.

Guess what. That dog was in her yard and doing her job. She didn’t ask for this and certainly should not have been shot in the head. She was not on BART at 2 am. She was not outside a party where gang members are. She was not trying to create chaos, was not packing a weapon, was not doing anything, really, but defending her home. And, barely, at that. Arthritis was her worst enemy until she met Oakland PD.

Yes, I know. People who did not deserve to die, have died, at the hands of police. It happens all too often. But it’s way too often involves them knowing someone they should not or being around someone they should not.

Gloria was in her yard and shot in the head. That’s fucked up. I do value human life more than anything, but this just has WRONG written all over it. Noon? Nice neighborhood? Lab dog? Really, the first thing to do is shoot the dog?

Screw that. We need to pay attention when humans and animals die for no reason at all. Let’s get real about what police protection should mean.

Posted by: Kathy White | September 30, 2010

Sarah Palin Love and Truth

  1. Todd and Sarah Palin met at a high school basketball game. When she first saw him, she whispered to herself “Thank you, God. — Really? That was her first thought? Have you seen him? Did she see a porn video right before that?
  2. In her book Going Rogue, Palin insists that she was manipulated into doing the famous Katie Couric interviews by Nicole Wallace, a communications aide for the campaign, and that Couric was just interested in catching Palin in a “gotcha” moment. — If there had been just ONE gotcha moment, that might be true. Watch it. There are about a thousand of them. None of those make sense from her.
  3. Palin was known as “Sarah Barracuda” on her high school basketball team because of her ferociousness on the court. She was also the co-caption of the 1982 State Championship basketball team and a member of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. — I was also in Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Guess what, they let anybody in. And Barracuda? Really? Seen the pictures? She is no more barracuda than I am straight.
  4. Palin’s parents, Chuck and Sally Heath, were a high school science teacher and school secretary, respectively. Her father also worked as a hunting and fishing guide and a bartender as well as for the Alaskan Railroad to make ends meet — And we can also deduce they had no time for their weird daughter, except when dropping her from a helicopter to shoot things.
  5. While attending the University of Hawaii-Hilo, Sarah tried marijuana and didn’t like it. “I can’t claim a Bill Clinton and say I never inhaled.”– Too bad. That just means you’re weird.
  6. When Sarah and Todd eloped on August 20th, 1988, they forgot to bring witnesses, so they went next door to a nursing home and brought back two people, one in a wheelchair and one using a walker. Eight months later on April 20, 1989, their first son, Track, was born — Draw your own conclusion. No, really. Figure it out.
  7. Track was named after Palin’s favorite spring activity, running track. Sarah joked that if he had born during basketball season, she would have named him “Hoops.”— Imagine if he had been born during curling season. “Hey, Curly, get that will ya?” Oh, and insert your own 3 stooges joke here.
  8. Palin and five of her friends formed an exercise group called the “Elite Six.” During the 1990s, they would perform aerobics as a group at the Alaska State Fair in exchange for free parking and food. — And probably other things. I mean, does Elite Six not sound like something that provides “other” services?
  9. When Sarah was helping with Todd’s commercial fishing business in 1993, she failed to register as a gillnet permit holder and pleaded “no contest.” The violation was inadvertently registered as a felony. — Inadvertently? She can’t be president. It’s a felony. It’s a damn fish.
  10. During the 2008 presidential campaign, Palin was the second female vice presidential candidate (after Geraldine Ferraro in 1984) and the first Alaskan on a national ticket. She was also the first female vice presidential nominee of the Republican Party. — And the first to actually blow up a Republican party nomination while serving her own purposes. Nice. John McCain loves her right about now.
  11. Palin attended five colleges in six years before graduating from the University of Idaho-Moscow in 1987 with a Bachelors degree in communications-journalism. She began her college education at Hawaii Pacific University and subsequently transferred to North Idaho College, the University of Idaho, and Matanuska-Susitna College — Anybody else follow that? Did she do anything?
  12. Palin won the Miss Wasilla pageant and finished third in the Miss Alaska pageant in 1984
  13. Palin won the Miss Wasilla pageant in 1984 and placed second in the Miss Alaska pageant, where she won the “Miss Congeniality” award and a college scholarship. From what I read, she is NO Ms. Congeniality. She’s a bitch unless the spotlight is on her. Soooo let’s go over this again…
  14. During her first term as mayor, Palin would keep a jar with all the names of the citizens of Wasilla on papers. Each week, she would pick a name and call the person and ask, “How is the city doing?. — Bad part, they said “Who are you?
  15. Palin was Alaska’s first female governor and the youngest (age 42) governor in Alaskan history. — And the best part? She probably did that all by herself.
  16. In 2007, polls indicated a 93% and 89% approval rating for Palin as governor. In 2009, her approval rating was at 54%. — In 2010 that went to 30% and they were convinced she was a lesbian. Good luck!
  17. In 2007, Palin supported a policy that would allow wolves to be hunted from the air and that a bounty of $150 per wolf would be paid. The bounty was later declared illegal. — NO SHIT.
  18. Publisher HarperCollins said that Going Rogue sold 300,000 copies its first day, making it one of the best openings ever for a nonfiction book. In 2004, Bill Clinton’s book, My Life, debuted at 400,000 copies. The year before, Hillary Clinton’s Living History started at 200,000. Going Rogue is poised to make Palin millions. — And make her a laughing —- wait for it — STALK. Really? Read it? Damn it…
  19. While mayor in 1996, Palin asked Wasilla librarian Mary Ellen Emmons if she would approve of censoring books if she were asked to do so. A few weeks after Emmons replied with “Definitely not,” she received a termination letter from Palin. — She also said that she must burn anything from James Baldwin, Armistead Maulpin, Oscar Wilde, and, well, anything gay.
  20. In an 2008 interview with the conservative newspaper Newsmax, Palin disputes the notion that humans are completely responsible for the global warming crisis. — And she can see Alaska from her front porch. Oh, wait, Russia. Oh, wait, polar bear who’d like more ice. Whatever.
  21. While she was mayor, the town of Wasilla charged rape victims and/or their insurance companies for rape kits. Former State Rep. Eric Croft reports that the only ongoing resistance to a bill that provided free rape kits was from Wasilla while Palin was mayor from 1996-2002. — Hey, you get raped? Look how you are dressed. Asking for it. And you should pay… well, you should pay just the same. Duh.
  22. While she was pregnant with daughter Willow, Palin dressed as a pregnant Jane Fonda for Halloween –Do I need this joke?
  23. Palin is a member of Feminists For Life (FFL) an anti-abortion, pro-contraception organization. — Wait, pro contraception? Bristol didn’t get that memo?
  24. During the governor’s race, Palin was the only candidate who said that creationism should be discussed in school alongside evolution.– Nope. Scientists are right, just deal with it.
  25. Palin is a lifelong member of the National Rifle Association (NRA). — She shouldn’t have gun, ever.
  26. Palin supports capital punishment. — Only if we’re killing, uhm, wait… family?

I’m sure Sarah is a fine person. I just don’t want her as my president, or a senate person, or, well, anything that might have control over my life. Stay in Alaska. They seem to like you there — or not.

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